Six years back I was working in my home country for a monthly wage of $40, I knew this was not enough. I was desperate for a change. Then change came in the form a new job where I earned $150 a month, this may not sound much but for me this meant more than 300% increase. Fast forward, I am now making in a day what I used to make in a month. This shift in my income levels taught me one thing, money is just a medium, and it’s all about experiences. If money cannot buy us experiences which make us smile and feel grateful, then all we are left with is a trash of green paper with no use. That is why in this article I will share with you my definition of wealth and ways we can start feeling abundant, beginning from where we are.
Law of attraction states that the more abundant we feel the more we attract it into your life. Well, my question was basic, like lot of others, how can I feel abundant when my bank account shows an overdraft. The questions lead me to many answers from renowned teachers (who I did not knew existed) and some out of my own conscious. Well before we proceed further into how to feel abundant I want to address some key misconceptions that we have around wealth:
i. Wealth is not accumulating lot and lot of money, instead it is our ability to circulate (spend) as much as we can, in a way that gives us both pleasure and a sense of fulfillment (that is why we get so much more out of $10 donated to someone hungry than spending $100 on ourselves in a cozy restaurant).
ii. Wealth has no meaning if we do not have someone to share, like family, friends & society.
iii. Wealth is a state of mind (most of below techniques are targeted towards achieving this).
iv. Wealth is in knowledge and sharing of the knowledge.
v. Health is the biggest wealth.
Now for the techniques, I found below useful:
1. Hidden value of your money: Many of us spend 1000s on shopping or accumulating things that we may never use, we do this to run away from our boredom and we look at our bank account and say ‘there is never enough’. I am guilty of such behavior and was trying to get out of it and this technique emerged, I am still trying it myself . Say we have $200 at our disposal to spend, instead of collecting things that will only create more shallow feeling, we can spend this money on something that creates a wholesome experience, like traveling, learning something new, buying books, buying something for someone else or donating it for some cause. However technique is not that, technique is to find ways to spend our money where we get more value out of it, both monetary and experiential. For example, we may decide to buy a book instead of going to a movie (movie lasts for about 2 hours, book lasts for life and more) or we may decide to go on a cruise during off season (cruise at any time will give us exposure to new experience than sitting on our butts in front of TV) or travel to a country where our $$ can buy us MORE experiences than in our own country (such travel will also give us exposure to new cultures which in itself is a great experience). Imagine what all these can do to our abundant feeling? Once we harness this feeling of being abundant our conscious will broaden so will our financial status then we will be able to circulate more money into things that matter.
2. Abraham Hicks technique: Technique is to carry a $100 bill with us (high denomination in your country) all the time in our wallet/purse, so when we reach our wallet/purse we no longer feel there is not enough in it, instead we will confident that we have more than enough to address any immediate need that may arise, we should not just go and spend this money but carry it with us and when we see something instead saying ‘Oh, geez, I cannot afford it’, we can say ‘I have more than enough to buy it but I decide not to’. Our focus immediately shifts from that of lack to that of having more than enough, this will shift our awareness (for more details on this technique read Esther Hick’s ‘Ask and It Is Given
‘). When we say to ourselves that ‘I decide not to’, it immediately gives us a sense of being in control.
3. Buy health not sickness: I have been a religious junk food eater. To stop this behavior I started an experiment which is to stop buying food outside for 90 days, if I was to break this resolution any day and eat outside, I would eat vegetable salad without any dressing as a reminder of my resolution. For the last 45 days (at the time of writing this) I stopped buying junk food at the fast food places, instead I started getting up 30 minutes early every day and I fix my breakfast and cook something for lunch (nothing fancy but just good enough for me to go on with my resolution) and let me tell you what happened: $10 on average fast food spending multiplied by 45 days comes to around $450, if I only consider weekdays during this 45 days period the savings were over $300. I did not save all of it, instead of buying at any grocery store I started buying at Whole Foods. This helped shift my own sense of what I deserved i.e. best quality. This shift helped me avoid the habit of eating junk food because once you taste the best you will not like the junk. As Somerset Maugham said "It’s a funny thing about life; if you refuse to accept anything but the best, you very often get it."
4. Explore new things & share: Well, what has learning new things or exploring new places have to do with abundance? Hmm…everything. If we want to be what we are or where we are intellectually, how will being or feeling abundant help us. When we learn new things or explore new places we shift our awareness and with it our consciousness. As we broaden our horizons we will be able to see more truth and we become abundant intellectually. Power & money in a fools hand is a very dangerous thing. When we start exploring new things and new places and we will see what a joy it is to appreciate the creation of the almighty. When we learn about something new or happen to see a place that we know our friends or colleagues would enjoy, share it with them, you will be adored for that and as a bonus they might tell you something that they found interesting which otherwise they would have never got an opportunity to share with you. This helps in broadening our experiential wealth.
5. Do not shoot for easy money: A common example (so I don’t take the credit) – it is said that more than 90% of lottery winners end up where they started in a very short span of time and so do those who inherit lot of property which they did not believe they deserve. It is called ‘easy money’ for two reasons, first, it comes easy and second, it goes easy. There is a difference between easy money and smart money, easy money is a probability game while smart money is an intellectual game (not poker). Every time we shoot for easy money we create a feeling that it is out of our control, we reaffirm our belief in scarcity and drifting away from feeling abundant. On the other hand, smart money comes from working on an inspired idea (applying for that job, learning new skill, taking up a hobby, starting on a new project), spending money wisely (not stock market – to me it is evolved gambling). Remember, smart money does not come to those who just work hard but those who work smart.
To be able to live a healthy, happy, fulfilling life, we must use wealth as a medium and not as a destination. Our goal should be to use wealth to accumulate great experiences and memories, and we should not get stuck in the process of accumulating money itself.
Finally, remember it’s all about our mind set, set it right!
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